Steam short ribs with fermented black soybeans / no more white lies 豉汁蒸排骨/ 別再說白色的謊言了

Steam short ribs with the fermented black soybeans are my personal favorite dish. I enjoy that chewing juice short ribs with the bright scallion, ginger and garlic flavors. Especially this charming fermented soybeans make this dish a great depth. Which makes my husband who doesn’t eat pork but couldn’t resist want to have some rice with it. The worse is my American kids they would complain there’re bone in it. It’s too bothersome to eat.

Friend of mine told me, why I trouble myself to make something that my family is not interesting. This what I thought ! I make whatever dishes that my husband and kids like most of time, but I do have something that I like for myself! I love my family but I want to treat myself too! I know there are moms always sacrificed themselves for their kids especially for the pass generations. Mom wants to save the fish filet to the kid. So she will tell kids that she enjoys the fish head even more. Then the mom will feel pathetic that no kids understand her when she got old. Moreover, when the daughter in law live with parents in laws. She can’t get sick because it will make herself look weak. Can’t complain she is tired too. That will be totally hypocritical! Kids will always taking everything from mom and nonstops. When it comes to money short in the family. Mom would be go even farther. She will wearing the old outdated clothes, cheap on skincare products for herself. Finally kids are all grownup independent and make their own living. Moms are still can’t treat herself a little better. Things are more unbelievable is when moms got sick or meet something bad. They will hide the news from kids, tell their kids everything is fine!

This is not love! Love needs to have good communication from both sides. Love is giving, but it will respect the payback too! This is all about human nature. I want to be a honest mom. I reminded my kids save some food fro someone who haven’t eat yet during the meal time. Never take everything for themselves just because they love it so much. I want them could be thoughtful! It’s ok to take a rest when you feel tired. Husband and kids will be just fine to eat out once for a while. My husband did tell me when I was tired he could taste it for food. He doesn’t mind just have pizza instead. That’s put in this way. There will be some alone quality time between dad and kids. Moms should really see things in different perspectives. As a woman needs to learn how to spend money more efficiently. Not spoiled the husband nor kids, then gaining without any respect, or hates herself when she see the refreshing from the mirror. Of course you got to say something when you feel bad or sick. Don’t you want some love and the great comfort? By pretending everything is fine. Does really make people who you love feeling better? Sharing some happiness to your love ones, but not the worries or sadness is just the one way love. A family should be on the same boat for better and for worse. I talk to my husband and kids with all kids of subjects. We express what we really think how we truly feel! Therefore we got better chances to understand and get closer to each other. I often wonder why the drama could keep continuing still. Is that all about the sweet white lies. Everyone is keeping their own mind, so the complicated episodes will keep on and on!

My dear friends, when was the last time you made yourself something nice? Can you really tell the people who you love so much about your true feelings? Don’t forget to love ourself a little more, and leave few chances to let people love us back.

Steam ribs with fermented black soybeans.

Ingredients:

1. About 2 1/2 pounds of spareribs. Ask the butcher cut it into 2 inches bit size.

2. 3 scallion. Diced, separate the white and green part.

3. Red chilies or sweet red peppers diced for color.

4. 4-5 cloves of garlic minced.

5. 1 tablespoons of minced ginger.

6. 1/4 cup of Fermented black soy beans. Rinsed and minced.

Seasoning:

1. 1 teaspoons of soy sauce.

2. 1 teaspoons of dark soy sauce.

3. 1 teaspoons of oysters sauce.

4. 1 teaspoons of rice wine.

5. 1 teaspoons of sugar.

6. 2 tablespoons of corn starch. *corn starch has great coating. It won’t release the water when food turns cold.

Place the ribs in the pot with cold water and 1 tablespoon of rice wine, bring to the broiling point. When the ribs change to white color, kill the heat and discard the water. Then, rinse, clean and drain the ribs. Set aside.

Have a pot big and deeper enough to put in a dish inside for steam. Place the rack inside, add in the water below the rack. Cover with lid, bring it to the boiling point and get ready for steam later.

Use a little bit more oil to sauté the ginger, garlic till fragrant, then add in the fermented soybeans and white part of scallions. The aromatic will all release in the air. Kill the heat, add in the corn starch mixing well. Following the ribs and keep stirring till all the rib coated with sauce evenly. Place the ribs in the steam plate.

Turn heat low to place the ribs in the steam pot, so you won’t burn yourself. Put the lid back on. Switch heat to high again, steam about 15-20 minutes. When you could use chopsticks to go through the meat.

Add in the red chili or sweet red pepper and green part of scallions, cover with the lid but turn off the heat about 1 minuets. Done!

Serve it hot with a bowl of white rice or mix the bottom of sauce with some thin noodles. The flavors of this dishes are intensely savor and unforgettable yummy!!!

豉汁蒸排骨是我個人很喜歡的一道料理. 我很享受那Q彈多汁的排骨配上那香氣鮮明的蔥薑蒜味. 特別是那韻味十足豆豉, 很有深度! 連不吃豬肉的我老公見了這道菜都垂涎三尺, 想拿那些醤汁拌飯. 可惡的是我們家的美國小孩總是嫌有骨頭麻煩. 真是氣死人了!

有位朋友告訴我為什麼老是自討無趣為什麼要做家人不受歡迎的菜. 我是這麼想的. 大部分的時間我都會做老公和孩子們吃的菜, 但我也有自己喜歡的食物啊! 我可以愛他們但我也可以對自己好呀! 我知道老一輩有許多媽媽總是犧牲委屈自己. 媽媽為了讓魚肉給孩子吃, 就說自己喜歡吃魚頭. 等到老了再心酸的怨天自憐孩子們不懂媽媽的心. 還有媽媽好像永遠不能生病, 也不會累一樣. 尤其是和公婆住在一起的媳婦. 一生病就是身體虛弱. 一喊累便是矯情! 孩子們總是從媽媽身上取之不盡, 用之不竭. 要是遇到家庭經濟拮据, 那麼媽媽就更誇張了, 衣服都過時破舊了, 保養品也捨不得買! 好不容易孩子長大上班賺錢獨立生活了. 媽媽自己還是捨不得花錢好好對待自己. 更誇張的是明明生病住院, 或是受了委屈也不告訴子女, 硬説自己沒事.

這不是愛呀! 愛是需要有交流的. 愛要付出, 但也會期待回應的. 這是人的本性啊! 我想當個誠實的媽媽. 吃飯時, 我會提醒孩子們要考慮到未食之人為他們留一份. 不能因為自己喜愛就不顧他人全吃光了. 我要他們能懂得體貼! 當自己累了就好好休息. 老公孩子一頓外食不會活不下去的. 我老公以前就曾經說過我累的時候做的菜都嚐得出來. 他不介意吃匹薩就好. 而且還能製造父親與孩子們單獨相處的時間. 媽媽們真的要換個角度思考. 女人更要學會經濟實惠的花錢, 而不是傻傻的富養老公孩子. 把自己省成沒人尊敬和連自己看了都討厭的黃臉婆才是! 受了委屈生病了當然要告訴老公小孩啊! 難道你不希望溫柔體貼的問候嗎? 假裝堅強讓在乎你的人不擔憂就真的會讓對方放心嗎? 報喜不報憂是單方愛的表達. 家人不就該是共舟共濟, 有福同享, 有難同當嗎? 我和我老公, 小孩什麼都聊..... 我們表達出自己內心真正的想法和感受. 所以我們有更多的機會了解對方. 彼此才能靠的更近. 我常在想為什麼連續可以一直上映? 就是因為大家各自想自己的, 善意的謊言使得錯綜複雜的劇情不斷的延生啊!

我親愛的朋友們, 你最後一次為自己做份好吃的是什麼時候? 你會告訴你身邊深愛的人你的真實感受嗎? 別忘了好好的愛自己, 也給對方有機會愛我們呀!

豉汁蒸排骨

材料

1. 排骨約兩磅半, 請人幫你切成二吋的一口大小尺寸.

2. 3枝蔥切丁, 蔥白和蔥綠分開.

3. 紅辣椒或甜椒切丁配色用.

4. 4-5顆大蒜切細末.

5. 1 大匙的薑末.

6. 1/4 杯的黑豆豉洗淨瀝乾切碎末.

調味料:

1. 1小匙的醬油.

2. 1小匙的老抽醬油.

3. 1小匙的蠔油.

4. 1 小匙的米酒.

5. 1小匙的糖.

6. 2大匙的玉米粉. *玉米粉裹附效果好, 食物冷卻後不出水.

把排骨放入鍋中加入冷水蓋過和1大匙的米酒, 煮沸. 肉變白色後熄火並且倒掉水. 然後冼淨瀝乾. 放置一旁備用.

取一只夠大的深鍋足以放入盤子的, 然後放入架子. 注入冷水, 水位低於架子. 蓋上鍋蓋煮沸備著用來蒸.

多放一點油炒香薑蒜, 然後再加入豆豉和蔥白. 待香氣都釋放出後. 熄火, 加入玉米粉拌勻. 隨後放入排骨再攪拌均勻使其平均的裹上醬汁, 放入蒸盤𥚃.

先把火關小, 然後放排骨入蒸鍋中. 這樣就不會容易燙傷自己. 蓋回鍋蓋轉回大火蒸15-20分鐘. 直到用筷子可以輕易穿過即可. 加入辣椒或是紅甜椒及綠蔥末, 蓋上鍋蓋熄火約一分鐘左右. 完成!!!

配上白飯或是將細麵條拌上底部的醬汁. 這道菜的味道香鹹夠勁令人難以忘懷的好吃!!!