Bibimbap( Rice mix vegetables in Korean style) / I don’t want to be a supermom anymore! 韓式拌飯/ 我不想再做超

New Jersey winter had come late and especially cold in longer periods since 2017. Gardener hadn’t got a chance to clean the leaves on the ground. Snow had come, and the temperatures dropped too. The average temperature was kept under the frozen point since the Christmas holidays had started. It wasn’t really the coldest during the snowing day. The worse it would be when the temperatures dropped after the snow. I live in a small town where it was developed from the woods. This town soon to become a frozen ground. But I’m still no princess Elsa. I am still a mom who need to take her kids to school each morning. There are many times I saw the messy grayish white street. It makes me wonder how bad was my vision developing. All my family just couldn’t take the heat well, that’s why we love the cold winter. especially in the holidays. Kids could cover with their own blankets, stay in their own rooms, get online, play games, text and chat with their friends. My husband and I would snuggle on the couch watch all sorts of Chinese, Korean TV drama or American movies without any guiltily. The whole family just have fun and enjoy the time passing through. It’s very relaxing !!! When my kids are hungry, I am not the only chef in my family. They all know how to heat up the leftover, make Macaroni cheese, cook pasta with browned butter and sprinkle some Parmesan cheeses. Dumplings and sauté onions with eggs on top of rice are easy for them to do so. My big boy is very good at home made popcorn, my little girl make awesome instant noodles, better than me. Since my teenage kids see me and my husband as their roommates. I don’t want to be supermom for them anymore. I don’t want to do anything for them like when they were little. That was quite exhausting at that time !!! My hubby and I also want to enjoy our holidays and have good time too! Not to mention, the teenage kids they already have their own ideas to take care of their business and socialize. They would not just listen the words that we said and follow it. Therefore we only need to give our kids some suggestions, few encouragements, and lots of blessings. I realized when I hang out with my kids in this way. Our relationships are getting closer than ever. So, why not? Because of my relationship with my kids as roommates, our meal times become very liberal. How many times we would eat it doesn’t matter now, no one would starve to death anyway. At this moment, I just wonder whoever made the rule that we have to eat three meals in one day? This rule is kind of hard for me to follow because I have very sensitive stomach all my life. It’s better eating more often but less quantity in a day. When I was dating with my husband in our young age. We often pass though a aquarium shop on the way home. We would see that family having dinner together late around 9-10 pm. My husband and I were all thinking what happened to that parent ? why make them so busy to serve their kids dinner that late. We felt very sorry for their kids!!! A few years later, when we have our own kids. My husband and I always remind each other don’t be just like the parent from the aquarium shop. We must remember our responsibilities and being a good parent. So we were doing pretty good on the daily basis routine with our kids. Now, my kids are all teenagers now. We had charged our mind with other perspectives. I used to feel that I am gonna work extra hours for the weekend or any holidays. But I don’t put myself in that position anymore. I would take my time slowly, relax and enjoy with my family. If the house just gets mess up. I would just let it be. There’s no reason to do everything and make myself feel like a servant, or being a party pooper to kill all the fun for my family. I spent pretty long period of time to get used to see that messy around my house and accept it. By the way my husband and I would give our kids some orders to clean the charts. Mission always be accomplish faster when everyone works together. Teaching and calling kids to do the house charts are very annoying things to do. But if I don’t train my kids. They will really get into serious troubles when they left home and become an adult one day. Please do not raise a spoil kids to ruin their own life in the future !!! I do feel much better after I decided I don’t want to be a supermom. Because I got more time to spend with my hubby and kids, so I won’t get mad or upset when I get over tiring. I found out kids are more independent. The last thing I need to let them know is to be sweet and caring to the people whom they love. That’s all!!! We all heard, “ if the best mom does everything for their kids and the kids probably couldn’t do anything. The spoil kids will grow up selfish” we could see kids like these everywhere around us. Therefore it is very important to let go of our kids hands. Maybe we gonna feel so worrisome, like putting our hearts in our mouth. But we still need to trust our kids they have abilities to learn all these survival skills, never take away their rights. This winter vacation has been kind of long. My daughter complained she couldn’t remember when was the last time I made some nice meal.” It’s because she always busy at her work and lots of activities, so she missed lots meal time with family. I can’t believe she complain it’s my bad! I found some ingredients from the refrigerator while we are having a snow day vacation. So I took my time to thin slice all the ingredients, then patiently sauté each one vegetables, of course served with the beautiful presentation. I am seriously cooking again and this is a great approves. Bibimbap 4-5 people. Preparation time 15 minuets. Cooking time 20 minuets. Ingredients: 1. Yellow bean sprouts washed. 2. 1 zucchini thin sliced. 3. 1 cut or more of thin sliced carrots. 4. 2 King oyster mushrooms thin sliced. 5. 2 medium red onion thin sliced. 6. 2 strawbof scallions diced in 45 degree angles. 7. 4-5 eggs. 8. 3 pound of thin beef slices. 9. Few toasted sesame seeds. *Pick up all the ingredients by your own favorite with different colors and textures to make this dish more interesting when you enjoy it. Seasoning: 1. Great quality black sesame oil.

2. Black peppers. 3. Korean chili paste.

4. 1/4 Korean BBQ sauce.

5. 1/4 white wine. 1. Marinated the beef with Korean BBQ sauce and white wine. Just enough to cover it. There’s no extra sauce to be needed, so it will be easy to cook the beef in dry condition. 2. Sliced all the vegetables in 45 degrees angles, then it will be easier to be thin sliced. 3. Yellow bean sprouts washed it well, placed in the pot with one inch of water at the bottom. Cover with lid, turn heat on high, bring it to broil, mix a little, then keep cooking about 2 minuets more till the yellow bean sprouts look transparent. Kill the heat, drain it under the cold water, sprinkle the salt, black pepper and drizzle some sesame. Mix it with the scallions diced too. Set aside!

4. Use none stick pan could save the oil quality. Pan fried 4-5 sunny side eggs with crisp bottom on one side, but tender and runny yolk on the top with medium high heat. Then set aside. Sauté all the vegetables start with the lighter color to the dark one. This way the light color vegetables won’t get color exchanged by the previous sautéing pan. *Mix in the sesame oil and sprinkle the salt right after add in the vegetables in the pan, salt would help release the water from the vegetables and speed up the cooking process. *Avoid adding too much oil to sauté the vegetables. It all about the try sauté techniques. Zucchini cooked the fastest. You could sprinkle a little bit water on the carrots to avoid burning during the sautéing process. Don’t sauté the red onion for two long to remain its own color and crunchiness. You might need a little bit extra oil when you sauté the oysters mushrooms if you see the sautéing pan is getting dry out! Sauté the marinated beef thin sliced till try, not juice at the bottom of the pan. Set aside!

1. Have a ceramic, iron or stone bowl ready, brush the sesame oil inside, filled in with the rice, place all the sautéed vegetables. Heat it up with high heat. Wait to hear the sizzling, it means the rice on the bottom are getting crispy. When all the vegetables are warm up. Place in the fried egg. Serve with Korea chili paste, mix well then enjoy it!

*You could add more sesame oil and sesame seeds if you like. Diluted chili paste with a little bit water it will be easier to mix with rice. In this simple rice mix with all kinds of vegetables Korean dish. You could test even individual sweet flavors with sesame aroma from all the vegetables. That’s because I take time to sauté them one by one. Korean spicy and sweet paste brings all the ingredients together. Crunchy and tender eggs white and eggs yolks assimilate in the rice with vegetables topped it up the greatness. I was worried kids would picky on the vegetables, but they got defeated. My hubby said, this is way taste better when we had in any restaurant before. In fact, the simplest dish it needs to pay more attention to do it well. The secret ingredient was that premium sesame oil and toasted sesame seeds. So, please don’t be cheap when you shop for these two ingredients. My daughter and I share the second bowl. We were so full, but felt so great!!! What are you waiting for? you could make this amazing dish at home too !!!

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