Kitchen-The heart of family, and Grandma's treasure 家的心贜-廚房, 和阿媽的寶物

In the American, people would discardable, " Kitchen is the heart of family" I love this idea very much. Whoever cooks the food, she( he ) is the person who bring the family together and gives her( his ) love to its family members. Food is always the first important thing for living. We get comfort when we simply satisfied our physical needs. We share lovely conversations to gain that great joy also. Each meals require lots hard works to represent on the dinning table. Daddy might work very hard to afford the food shopping. Mom prepares the food with all her love and caring. I would teach my kids to understand all these things, and hopefully they could cherish it.

I grow up in a very traditional family, my father was very strict about the table manners. His number one rule was, you never even let elder call you to dine. So, me and my brother would get ready to help and set the table when we saw whoever was cooking in the kitchen. Second rule was, family always eat together, no TV and never complain about food. If you don't like it, you can eat less or keep your mouth shut." My little brother never learned his lesson always complained the food and asked for an pan fried egg, so he got beat up by my father a lot. I still carry this tradition in my own family, just won't and can't to beat up my kids anymore. Instead funny table conversations, share our daily life for each other. I really love this atmosphere !!!

Kitchen is also not just belong to my territory anymore. I would try to bing my family in with me, keep them closer, train them more independent. My boys know how to clean the dishes washer drawer and put dishes back. They know how to make their own smooth too. My girl would do whatever she is interesting from the website. My husband would help me out for cleaning the dishes. Or They would just help to put all the grocery back to the pantry. It's not just food to me. it all about we work together as " a family ".

This summer time, I visited my in laws. I had chance to help them to clean the kitchen. This kitchen was belonged to my husband's grandma's. She was a very generous person, loved to cook big. In the early years when I just stepped in to her kitchen. She would always helped me to put on my apron from my back. I would never forget she was a petit size woman and she had some trouble about her legs movement, but she would put her arm around my waist and tied it up for me. Then, my mother in law inherited this kitchen. Her cooking was all about the speed. Her food maybe not consistent, but always come out great surprises. She was great to make a feast for any party. That's pretty amazing to me too. Two years ago, my mom in law had car accident and went through the brain surgery. She is ok now, but kinda of lack of good memories. Therefore this kitchen is slightly walking into history. I feel very bad that I couldn't make her a meal while she was sick. But, I do have my own kids to take care in US. Therefore, this summer, me and my husband flipped the kitchen upside down, clean all the cabinet and drawers. Of course we rinsed each platers, bows and pots. I think, since I am a slightly OCD person, and who love to cook so much. I would be a perfect Kennedy to fit this job, and you know what? I found grandma's beautiful bowls. Those are not just gorgeous, it's also all antique now. My mother in law let me keep all of it. I'm more than glad to pass this love to my kids. I also pray and hope who ever could reach this kitchen can bring a new life to this kitchen, share more good food and hear more great laughters.

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How's your the heart of family. I hope it is function well and strongly to tie your family together !!! Pump it up, Don't afraid to get messy, as long as you have each other and work it out and live happily ever after !!!

在美國, 人們説, 廚房是一個家的心臟. 我很喜歡這樣的說法. 不管是誰下了廚, 她(他)就是那一位把全家人拉近距離, 也把她(他)的愛給了全家. 吃一直都是人生中的大事. 當我們吃飽了滿足了生理的需求, 我們就可以感受到舒適. 我們也從分享, 彼此開心的對話而感到喜樂. 每頓飯都來自於辛苦和努力才能呈現在餐桌上的. 爸爸可能要辛苦的工作才能購買食物, 媽媽則得付出許多愛心和關懷. 我總是會讓我的孩子們了解這些事並希望他們懂得珍惜.

我成長在一個非常傳統的家庭生活裡, 我的父親對於餐桌禮儀是很嚴格的. 他的第一條規則是, 決不能讓長輩叫你吃飯. 所以我和我弟弟不管見到誰在廚房開始做菜. 我們就會開始幫忙備好碗筷. 第二條規則是, 吃飯時不看電視的, 也不能埋怨菜色不好吃. 你不喜歡的話可以少吃不說, 這是對辛苦煮飯的人的尊重. 而我老弟時而犯傻埋怨食物, 還要求多煎個蛋以致招來我爸的一頓毒打. 而他卻還老是記不得!!! 我依舊繼續這一份傳統在我自己的家裡. 只是現在不能,也不會打小孩了, 取而代之的是餐桌上有趣的對話, 和一起分享我們每個人的一天. 我很喜歡這樣的氣氛!!!

廚房也不在是屬於我一個人的領土範圍. 我會引導家人們一起進入, 讓他們有參與感, 訓練他們能獨立. 我的兒子們會整理好洗碗機的抽屜並把碗盤歸位. 他們也會做自己喜愛的冰沙. 我女兒則可以做任何她在網路上感到有興趣的東西. 老公也會幫忙冼碗. 又或者他們都會幫忙把我採購的東西放回廚櫃裡. 這對我來說不只是食物而已, 而是我們全部的人一起動起來像個"家".

今年的暑假, 我造訪公婆家. 我有機會幫忙他們整理廚房. 這個廚房曾經是奶奶的. 她是位很慷慨的人, 做菜很豐盛. 在早期我進入這廚房時. 她總是會從我的背後幫忙繫上圍裙. 我永遠也不會忘記個子嬌小, 行動不是很靈活的她,用她的雙手環繞在我的腰間繫上它. 接著這廚房交給了我婆婆, 我婆婆做菜講求的是速度. 她做菜的穩定性不一, 但每次總令人驚喜. 而且辦桌是沒問題的! 這總是另我很佩服. 二年前, 婆婆出了車禍, 腦部動了手術. 現在人沒事了, 但記性不好. 所以這廚房逐漸的走向歷史. 我很難過在她生病的這段期間沒能為她煮上一頓飯, 然而在美國的我得照顧自己的孩子們. 所以這個暑假, 我和老公把這個廚房從裡外上下, 清洗每一個廚櫃和抽屜. 當然我們也冼淨了每個碗盤和鍋子. 我想, 我本身就是有點強迫症的人, 又喜歡做菜. 這個工作的最佳人選就是我了, 然後你知道發生什麼事了嗎？我發現了奶奶漂亮的碗. 這些碗不僅是美麗, 而且現在都成古董了. 婆婆把所有的碗都送給了我. 我超開心的. 希望以後我可以傳給我的孩子們. 我也希望以後不管誰能有機會可以接觸這廚房, 可以給它新的生命, 分享更多的美食, 帶來許多的歡笑聲.

你們家的心臟如何呢？它強壯嗎？有充分運用把全家人緊緊的繫在一起嗎？打起氣來, 別怕弄髒和麻煩. 只要全家人在一起分工合作就能解決問題, 幸福快樂的過活!!!!